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5 signs you are trying too hard in your relationship

By: Mr and Mrs AG on 23:52:00 / comment : 0 relationship tips, relationships

When we walk into a new relationship, we all want to make things work. Which is why we put in extra efforts and it’s totally understandable. But when you find yourself constantly trying as time goes on, then there’s something wrong.

Nobody is sitting here telling you that you should give up on somebody. However, if you’ve noticed that you are trying extra hard and receiving close to NOTHING in return except for a broken heart and a crushed ego, then it’s not worth it.

So if you’re wondering “is he taking advantage of me,” here are 5 tell-tale signs that you’re trying too hard in your relationship:

You’re ALWAYS the one to make plans. If you’re constantly the one to hit them up and initiate seeing each other, stop. The drill for this is to stop, sit back and do NOTHING.
If he/she doesn’t seem to initiate any plans or text you first after, I’m going to take it upon myself to assume one of two things. Either the whole relationship was in your head and they’re actually just your friend, or they treat you like absolute shit.
1. You are CONSTANTLY making excuses for them.
So, you’re telling me that the person you’re with is perfect and ALWAYS needs to be defended? If you were confident in the relationship you were in, you’d have no problem communicating with them and/or venting about them.

The more you defend them, the more we are all twitching around you waiting for you to see reality for what it is, TRUST me.
1. You compromise on the things you really want.
Basically, it’s all about them. Even your ‘wants’ aren’t your own. They’re manipulated and molded to fit the wants of your (obviously) controlling, narcissistic partner.

For instance, if you used to love binge watching The Bachelor and stopped because you know your SO hates it, that’s an issue. That’s a MAJOR issue, actually.
1. You’re afraid of confrontation.
You are a STRONG diva of a person, no matter who you are or where you came from. You need to love yourself and be confident enough to fight with your partner and stand up for what you believe in.

If you are afraid to do this, your relationship has some serious things you both need to work on. FYI, the more you try to appease them by dodging confrontation, the angrier (or more resentful) you both are getting.
1. You find yourself waiting around for them.
Whether you physically wait for them to come back from wherever the went, or you are constantly suppressing your emotions (that are eating away at you, by the way) in hopes that they will become different somehow in the morning, what you’re doing isn’t working.

You really are worth it, and you deserve the same respect from your S.O. in return. So keep that in mind.

How to establish a good relationship with your in-laws

By: Mr and Mrs AG on 07:24:00 / comment : 0 marriage, relationship tips

Having a good relationship with someone isn’t that easy, with in-laws especially bad ones it gets more difficult.

We have this conception about in-laws especially mother in-laws: they are bad, wicked, intrusive and super nosy. Maybe they are, maybe they aren’t, but you would be marrying their son or daughter so you’ll have no other option than to have a good relationship with them, at worst, a cordial relationship.

However, it must be noted that they’re some in laws that would never like you no matter how hard you try to get accepted into the family, and this is okay, there’s nothing you can do to change the situation, but it isn’t a crime to try.

Here’s how to have a good relationship with your in-laws:

BE YOURSELF

Many people make this mistake especially women, once a man proposes and decided to take them home, they switch their character and try to act a script that wasn’t meant for them. You should never pretend to be someone you are not, always be yourself no matter what. From the first day your man introduces you to the family, be yourself, if you pretend to be nice, pretend to be submissive, pretend to be quiet on the first day, that’s the way they’ll expect you to be till the days of your life and trouble usually comes calling, when they discover that you had tricked them into believing you were a certain way. So always be yourself. If you are submissive from day one, be submissive till the rest of your days. Don’t be afraid of anyone, show them your true colors, this would equally make them prepared to accept you the way you are or make adjustments.

TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR SPOUSE

When you take good care of your husband or wife, your in-laws would naturally have affection for you. Don’t treat your husband or wife wrongly and expect to be friends with your mother in law or other members of his or her family. When you are nice, they’ll love you and would always come calling if you have any problems.

BE ACCOMMODATING

Don’t have future plans of closing your doors so your in-laws wouldn’t come visiting or asking for assistance from your husband or wife. Be accommodating and loving, if the assistance they ask for would affect your husband’s ability to cater for you and your kids then you can advise him to offer them the little he can and they could find more from somewhere else (this is wisdom).

Being nice to your in-laws doesn’t mean you should become a doormat, be smart and loving and before anything else, marry a man who would never put your in-laws above you.

6 Ways to love your man more this season

By: Mr and Mrs AG on 07:23:00 / comment : 0 relationship tips

These little things will go a long way! This season, everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated, and your man also wants to feel that way. Make your relationship stronger by loving your man differently this season. Below are 6 tips that will help.

Compliment him.

This may surprise a lot of women, but it’s rare for a man to receive genuine compliments. We are often on the giving end of compliments. So, by acknowledging your guy with genuine adoration it will make him feel appreciated.

Ask him for his advice.

Stereotypically, when a woman tells a man about her problems she isn’t necessarily looking for a solution. She wants a listener. However, a man’s instinct is to try to provide a solution.

So go ahead and specifically ask him for his advice. It makes him feel useful, wanted and even needed. It is going to allow him to flex his problem-solving muscles and make him feel like he’s contributing to your life.

Wear that outfit you know he loves.

I am sure you’ve heard it before: Men are visual creatures. But there’s more to it than just looking good. If a man sees you in something that you know he loves, he will recognize that you are putting in an effort to look good for him specifically.

Give him your undivided attention.

Yes, women multitask better than men do. You may be able to check your email and still give him your attention, but it shows your lack of intention. Show him that he’s got your full and complete attention.

Show him he’s a priority.

We all have busy lives with friends, family, work and hobbies, but make sure you include him where you can. Time is the most valuable asset any of us have because we can’t get it back after we spend it. It’s also the most important gift we can give to someone.

If you appreciate what he does for you, tell him.

Romance and relationships are a two-way street. A good man will give to you without asking for anything in return, but that doesn’t mean you should do nothing. Tell your man that you cherish having him in your life.

”If that guy doesn’t call you for two weeks, he doesn’t like you”- Tonto Dike says

By: Mr and Mrs AG on 07:11:00 / comment : 0 relationship tips

Ladies get in here. Beautiful Nollywood Actress, Tonto Dike, has a word of advice for you.

The wife and proud mother of one shared some insightful words telling ladies that if that guy doesn’t call them for two weeks he doesn’t like them as much as they think.

Read what she wrote below:

”Most people are pretty obvious with their actions.
I rarely get my hopes up, not because I am a pessimist but because I am a realist.
Actions prove why words mean nothing, from relationships to work, from work to parties.

Intentions that aren’t acted upon are just ideas, and ideas without action are just thoughts.
So if that woman you want to be with is messing around, it is because you aren’t her priority.

If that guy doesn’t call you for two weeks, he doesn’t like you as much as you like him.
If that important meeting keeps on getting rescheduled, it means it is not that important to the other party.
If the government fail the people they are supposed to be representing time and time again, it means that they aren’t really representing you, or they just aren’t bothered.

The people who always text and call to ask how you are, these are the people who care.

The people who email you back straight away and the people who do things to help. These are the people you should invest your time in.
Remember your happiness starts with you.
Not with your relationship.
Not with your friends.
Not with your job.
But with you.
Things outside of you won’t fix problems on the inside.
Love yourself properly and people will love you.
Don’t echasee after people/Things who are running away, if it is meant to be it will be.
If not, there are plenty more fish in the sea x
Everything is everything

#Peace #2017 #GOOD #MORNING MY NEIGHBORS #chkbrs #POKOBARS”

5 requirements women over-emphasize in potential partners

By: Mr and Mrs AG on 14:48:00 / comment : 0 love, relationship tips, relationships

The bottom line of good relationships is being with someone you can perfectly gel with, stereotypes be damned.

For long you've had in your mind, the picture of what your ideal man looks like, but is that really what is good for you?

Single women are fond of readily defining features in their mind, and then trying to see if potential partners fit the model they have crafted carefully.

On top of that, a lot of women prioritize character traits simply because they believe that’s what everyone wants.

Ultimately, all that should matter is what you want.

So, if you have ever been crazily resolute about the things listed below, you need to relax the strictness of the rules.

You can be with a man who does not have them and still be happy in love.

So, what are the five traits women give undue priority to?

A man does not need to dress like your favourite celebrity before he qualifies as an ideal man for you (Pulse) « less

Good dresser

Let a guy be who he is. That he doesn’t dress like your favourite movie star does not make him less of a lover.

And that you favourite movie star dresses the way he does is not a guarantee that he knows the first thing about holding a relationship down.

Of course, you need someone who you can proudly introduce to people, and when you find a guy who truly loves you and looks just presentable enough, you should give him a chance.

Love, understanding, respect and compromise are more important traits to concentrate on than a good dress sense.

Don't overemphasize the importance of money to the detriment of other atrributes.

Deep pockets

Of course, this article will be incomplete without getting to the issue of money.

Mind you, there is nothing wrong with falling in love with a rich man, provided every other thing is right.

If, however, wealth is the only thing you are concerned about, you might live to regret it.

Wealth does not guarantee happiness. Pay attention to the full package, not just some aspect you want to see.

6 feet and above

Somehow, society has aided the spread of the belief among young women that the ideal man for them has to be tall. Really?

First things first, look around you, of every ten men you see, how many of them are 6 feet tall or above?

Secondly, would you rather be with a short man who gets everything right, or a tall one who does not know the first thing about treating a woman right?

Desiring a tall man is Ok, but priorities should be kept as reasonable as possible.

Remember, your happiness above everything else.

Other women want him

Rejecting a man because other women do not want him is not particularly a sensible move.

If you like a man that other women do not like, shouldn’t you be happy? Logically, that reduces the risk of him being snatched from you, right?

Besides, do you really need other people’s validation to fall in love with someone?

"A man who can handle me"

Often times when women say that they need a man “who can handle” them, it means they need someone who can get them to rein in their tendency to be very wild and indisciplined.

If you ever find that, you are lucky, but in the instance that you meet a great guy who is soft-spoken and does not have the ability to tame you, will you let him go just because of that?

The task of being disciplined is yours and not that of a man. Learn to tame yourself, be a manager of your own wildness.

🌹source: Pulse🌹

Relationship: is your partner insecure? Here's how to find out and handle it

By: Mr and Mrs AG on 09:52:00 / comment : 0 insecurity, lifestyle, relationship, relationship tips

When we first fall in love, the constant texts and phone calls seemed cute, but now, you are beginning to think it’s getting too much. You are wondering… could your partner be insecure about the relationship? Here are 5 signs of an insecure partner and how to deal with it.

They always need your approval
An insecure partner will constantly seek approval of their life from you. No amount of reassurance will help. They were insecure before you met them, and they’ll stay that way unless something changes.
They’re so jealous!
They’re jealous of what you achieve or do outside of the relationship. If you hang out with a friend instead of them, they’ll say you have no time for them. The same goes for a job. But it shouldn’t be a constant occurrence. If they’re jealous of your achievements or your friends, there’s a problem.
You’ve always got to explain yourself to them!

The need to gather information on you is a must! They need to know where you’re at, who you’re with and how long you’ll be. If you’re bombarded with questions after spending a few hours away and it happens constantly, you know what’s up. It may have nothing to do with you personally, but it’s still annoying. It can also mean your partner is controlling.

You’re made to feel bad for not texting or calling back quick enough
For them, constant communication is a must. This is also associated with jealous tendencies.
Constructive criticism is foreign to them
Some arguments are beneficial, and actually help a relationship thrive. Others leave you two going in circles and feeling defeated. Insecure partners can’t argue usefully because they can’t rationally look at their behavior and evaluate it.

How to Help Your Partner Overcome Their Insecurities

Know partner’s feelings are real and not just a joke. Accept that they’re trying to satisfy emotional needs, though in the wrong way.
Examine your behavior to make sure you’re not the issue. Behavior like failing to deliver on promises, flirting, or embarrassing the other in public can contribute to issues. You might not even be aware of what you’re doing.
Make changes to your behavior to ensure trust between you and your partner.
Prepare a meeting with your partner to discuss their insecurities. Let them know you will be there every step of the way to help.
Let them know past experiences they had with other partners won’t be repeated.
Show your partner affection, noting whether it’s emotional or physical affection they want.
Keep any promises you make to your partner and set realistic expectations.
Seek relationship counseling if all else fails.

7 Steps to overcoming trust issues in a relationship

By: Mr and Mrs AG on 09:49:00 / comment : 0 how to, lifestyle, relationship, relationship tips

Not being able to trust the person you are in a relationship with is the fastest way to kill that relationship. Whether it’s a romantic, business or social relationship, trust matters a great deal. If you have trust issues, it’s important to learn fruitful ways to overcome them before the relationship is harmed.

Here are 7 tips that will help you:

Consider what makes you fail to trust other people.

Trust is harder for some people than others, often due to past experiences, recent letdowns or maybe even the way you were raised as a child. Finding out the reason you don’t trust people will help you a lot.

Think about what you expect from others

Also, knowing your expectation from others can help cut down trust issues. Perhaps you have very high expectations, maybe too high, and if such expectations are not met, you feel disappointed.

Decide whether you’re prepared to trust or distrust life.

Think about the wider consequences of not trusting everyone throughout your life. It takes great effort, it alienates you and it leaves you constantly suspicious and disappointed. Is that an enjoyable way to live life?

Give people their space.

Whether it’s for an intimate relationship or a business or social acquaintance, nobody likes to be smothered by someone who wants to know their every move. By backing off and letting people feel they have space around you, you create a space for honesty and greater sharing.

Deal with past pain

Failed love, failed business deals, failed friendships… they all take their toll in the memory bank. But they are a part of your life, not all of it. Bad things do happen, yet how we react is what matters. Try to stop dwelling on what went wrong and start looking instead at what you learned from the experience.

Make a decision to find more constructive ways to cope with breaches of trust

There is no guarantee in life that your trust won’t be broken. But you can make a decision to deal with such breaches in ways that don’t add to a negative view of life. For instance: Realise that some people are simply bad eggs. Not every person is though, so keep seeking the good. Take the lesson out of the situation you’ve gone through.

Stop expecting others to know what you want

Unless you’re prepared to articulate your wants clearly, you cannot expect people to mind read. Learn to speak clearly, be assertive about your needs and stand up for what matters to you. It is unfair to blame others for letting you down if you’ve failed to make it clear in what ways you expected more from them.

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